"Networking is crucial to success."
How many of you have heard this time and again? How many of you are uncomfortable networking?
You were taught to the WIIFM Approach to Networking:
- have your business card at the ready, easily accessible, no fumbling for it
- confidently walk up to John Doe, look him eye-to-eye
- give him a firm handshake, not too soft and not too hard
- say your name and title clearly, with a smile on your face
- give your elevator pitch, which you've repeatedly rehearsed
- listen to John give you his information, you're nodding, though not really listening
- you and John exchange cards, neither of you writing any notes on them
- take a sip of whatever you are drinking, say you will call, knowing you won't
- you move to the next person to repeat the cycle, believing John will call because you are brilliant and he needs you to do something or other
- and, you wait for John, or anyone from that night, to call you
Answer this question, did anyone ever call you?
Networking is often seen as a one-way endeavor, to find someone to help you; however, the true benefits of networking come when you focus outwardly versus inwardly. If you approach networking as a opportunity to help others first and yourself second, it will become easier, less stressful and even enjoyable. Nugget of knowledge: Networking in the 21st century is about fostering mutually beneficial relationships.Imagine this scenario:
- have your business card and a pen at the ready, easily accessible
- confidently walk up to John Doe, look him eye-to-eye
- give him a firm handshake, not too soft and not too hard
- ask him his name and title, with a smile on your face
- ask him what is his organization's mission or goal and what is a current challenge
- offer him suggestions for meeting the challenge and/or how you can help him meet it
- you and John exchange cards, you write a note on the back of his card to jog your memory about the conversation and any follow-up
- take a sip of whatever you are drinking, say you will call and mean it
- you move to the next person to repeat the cycle, knowing you will call John because he is expecting to finish the conversation of how you can help him
- and, you call John, set an appointment to meet and a new member of your network is born
In scenario 1, it was about you, your organization, your elevator pitch, what John can do for you. Whereas in scenario 2, it is about John, his organization, his goals and his opportunities. Which scenario do you think will be most successful in fostering a mutually beneficial business relationship?
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